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Flower of the Month
February 2007
Patty
Grand Dutchess the Majestic Provider of Cachinnation
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I
was born on September 6, 1953 to Thomas and Mary Gernon. My father was a
NYC policeman and my mom was the secretary to the President of Chase,
who as custom required, left her position to become a stay-at-home mom
in her 7th month of pregnancy. My 3 brothers, Robert, Thomas
and Kevin, followed every 3 years thereafter. I grew up in Queens, NY.
My first 8 years were spent in Corona, which at the time boasted, not
“Julio in the schoolyard” as per Simon and Garfunkel, but a HUGE
Italian immigrant population. There were 72 children in my first grade
class one very strict nun. Ninety nine percent of the kids I went to
school only spoke Italian, ate Italian and could have made me “an
offer I couldn’t refuse.” This probably started my obsession with
Italian food! I was a real city kid. I walked to school, came home for
lunch, played stickball and bottle caps in the street, fished “pennsey
pinkies” out of the sewer with wire coat hangers formed into a loop,
rode the city bus and subway – alone - at age 5. In 1962, Mom and Dad
bought a lovely little cape in Bayside Hills with acreage – 40 ft. x
100 ft. We thought we had moved to the country! We had an apple tree,
raspberry bushes and a passel of vegetables in our yard. I attended the
elementary school across the street from our home and was late almost
every day. I lead a rather sheltered life. When it came time for me to
go to high school, my policeman father decided I couldn’t attend the
local public school. It was the 60’s and things were cooking in the
New York City streets. So I took an entrance exam and I went to St.
Agnes Academic High School--an all girls' Catholic school in College
Point. It took me 90 minutes each way, taking city buses, to navigate my
way to school. It was one of the most wonderfully joyful times of my
life. I blossomed there academically and socially. No more the quiet
kid, I took the helm on many projects with a variety of clubs, sports,
and served on the community boards, and in political and religious
organizations.
I
grew up in the era of the Rockettes, the June Taylor Dancers and the
Coco Cabana. When I expressed an interest in tap dancing and ballet, my
Grandmother agreed. Not only did I take lessons, but I was often sent to
weddings, and local events such as the NY World’s Fair ‘64-‘65,
with my AGVA union card in hand for a gig. I worked with some
celebrities like Buddy Rich, the Tremolos, Gene Kelly, the Copa Girls to
name a few. As I matured, I dreamed of becoming a Rockette. My dream
came to a screeching halt when I didn’t grow above 5 foot 2 inches.
The regulations required that Rockettes could not be shorter than
5’6” for uniformity. Talent aside, no amount of padding in my shoes
could make me taller. So it
was Plan B for me. I went to the City University of New York, Queens
College. I worked 3 jobs to
pay tuition and books, and graduated with my elementary education
degree. (Same school and year as Jerry Seinfeld).
Of course, as my Irish luck would have it, the City of NY had
laid off 5,000 teachers that year. But never fear I got a job ….
teaching juvenile delinquents in a school for kids who had committed
violent and felony crimes. I had an armed guard outside my room and 16
unruly boys, who couldn’t read or write, but had plenty street smarts.
They were all way
smarter than their teacher was. I didn’t know many swear
words nor did I realize that these words could be used so colorfully to
express oneself until I worked with these boys. For the next 4 years
every day was an adventure. I would never know if I was going to teach
or visit Ryker’s, go to court or a police station to see one of “my
boys”. I loved this job and each and every one of those kids. I felt
that I made a difference in their lives. I hear from some of them every
once in a while.
All
the while I was working and going to school I didn’t date much. There
was not much demand for girls who didn’t weigh 100-lbs. soaking wet! A
friend from college set me up on a blind date. I went to dinner and a
Broadway play with a black eye, scratched arms, broken finger, and bite
marks, (from the little darlings in my classroom) and a love was born --
my husband, Russell. We started dating on April 10 and on September 3,
Rus asked me to marry him. We celebrated by having dinner at the Top of
the World in the World Trade Center. We were married the following
August. We settled into an apartment with a phenomenal view of the NYC
skyline in Flushing, NY. I changed jobs to NY Life Insurance on Madison
Avenue in Manhattan as a Training Specialist.
My
father passed away at the young age of 56 and left my mother
broken-hearted. Shortly after, a doctor told us that we would probably
never be able to have children. With Adoption papers on the dining room
table, we had some construction done in our apartment, mice invaded, and
it
happened. Our first little angel, Brian, arrived in August 1981. I
started a “little tutoring job” from referrals from friends in the
district and doctors that I had worked with in Juvie hall that grew into
a full-fledged business. By the time our second cherub, Dennis, came
into the world I had so many clients I had to hire 3 people to help with
the overflow. It became apparent that with 2 boys, we were going to need
a house. Interest rates were soaring to 21%. We looked, as people do in
NY, to Long Island and decided that there must be something better. We
went west--crossed
the
river (that would be the Hudson) and wound up in Cranbury,
NJ. You know what they say, “New house, new baby!” I found out I was
pregnant with our beautiful Laura at a regular gyno visit right after we
had moved to Cranbury. Rus had been doing a lot of work related
traveling, my Mother was in Florida with my Grandmother who was
critically ill, Dennis at 2.5 wasn’t talking, Brian was having a hard
time adjusting to his new environment and I told the Doctor I was
‘under stress.’ His response, “Patty, your stress has a
heartbeat!” It was a miracle!! Then Black Monday came. Rus lost his
job. So, with 2 mortgages, a bridge loan, 2 children under the age of 6,
and six months pregnant I attempted to keep my life together.
Incredibly, like the mover and a shaker she continues to be, our
beautiful Laura was born the Monday of Thanksgiving week---6 weeks
early! Rus got a job after 120 stress-filled days later. When I finally
gave back the heart monitor and all the other electronic
equipment, two years later, I looked back on this time as a blessing. It
put life into perspective.
I
couldn’t work full time when the children were young between Laura
requiring special personnel and Rus’ incredible 2.5 hour commute each
way to Manhattan, but I had wonderful friends who were like family. We
watched each other kids so that we could each have some time at fun jobs
when the kids were little. I worked at the Lenox Warehouse, made
chocolate in a chocolate factory like Lucy and Ethel, tutored, tested
everything from deodorant to pregnancy sticks at Carter Wallace, smelled
new product fragrances at Fremenich, did substitute teaching. I was a
den mother, Boy Scout leader, brownie leader, Sunday School teacher,
Teen Club advisor, Go-To person in the neighborhood for any emergency,
Carpool driver, Track/Soccer/ Lacrosse/Theater/PTA mom. Finally, after
more than 16 years of being home raising my own children, I landed a
real teaching job. I taught first and second grade in East Windsor NJ. I
was Teacher of the Year and received the NJ Governor’s Excellence in
Teaching Award in 2002. I remember thinking that my life was just
perfect! You know what
happens when you do that….
Now
the question turns to how in the world did you come to join a Red Hat
Society in Ohio? Well, at
51 my husband had to interview for his job at Chase or lose it after the
merger with Bank One. But from my standpoint, the timing couldn’t have
been worse. I would have to leave my dream job, Laura was about to enter
her Senior year, my mom, with final stage emphysema was living with us
and was failing daily, Brian and Megan had just had our granddaughter,
Jocelyn …….. and I was moving further away? What was wrong with this
picture? My husband, the saint, commuted from NJ to Ohio for 18 months.
At the end the dominoes fell; some faster than I would have liked. My
dear mother passed away the week we put our house on the market. Laura
graduated from Notre Dame High School. Our home sold. The new house was
ready. I tearfully resigned my teaching position hoping to get one here
in Ohio. Most everything has worked out just the way I had hoped it
would. The only domino that didn’t fall the way I planned was the
teaching job. I must have another purpose to fulfill in my lifetime. I
have translated my teaching skills to work at McGraw-Hill in their
Education division. Our children have adjusted and settled into their
lives. Rus’ reward… a 10-minute commute to work after 19 years of
2.5 hours each way. My reward --- the Victorian Bouquets Red Hat
Society! I feel blessed to have met each and every one of you!
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